Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
Ouch. Did you ever stop and think about what comes out of your mouth? And I am not just talking about ‘curse’ words. Maybe it’s criticism, or sarcasm, or maybe angry tones and words. Wow, when you really stop to think whether your words build others up, I’d guess we all have some work to do.
Here’s me being real…I am, what I call a “passionate” mom and wife. Unfortunately, that “passion” comes out loudly sometimes, with or without a dose of sarcasm. Ugh, that is hard to admit but I have really been convicted on that recently. While I’d say my little sarcasms are not mean or nasty, I recently wondered, what am I REALLY saying to these people I love? I might not mean anything negative but the receiver might feel differently. I have made a conscious effort to stop that, I don’t want my loved ones to ever feel like I am putting them down in any way!
I also feel that we are desensitized as a culture. Goodness, there are words I would’ve never thought of using in front of my parents and I hear it all the time. Gracious, the ‘F’ word in my family growing up, was F-A-R-T. To this day, I cannot say that word! I am not saying I have never said a choice word in my life, but I sure didn’t feel good about it. Now these days, it’s in song lyrics, movies, shows, school, buses, you tube…it feels like it’s everywhere. My oldest teen was recently confused on this topic. Apparently, a Christian music artist posted a comment about this subject. His point was, if he says “good bleeping job” but means it positively, is that really wrong? I guess I think, would I say that if Jesus was sitting next to me? I sure wouldn’t…to me, that makes it wrong. We have to live and speak as if He is with us and listening all the time…because, guess what? HE IS! Can I get an Amen?
Listen, I am working on this, too. Sometimes, there are shows I think are really funny but the content or words are inappropriate. I am trying to model and teach my kids to turn it off. It doesn’t matter if you are with friends, family or alone in that hotel room. You are never alone. He is always with you. We have a God who loves us and sent his Son to die for us, is it too much to ask to turn it off or change the channel? Maybe you think I sound a bit ridiculous here but the bible says what comes out of our mouths is truly what’s in our hearts. Just saying…
I am really trying to be more mindful of how I speak to others. Give it a try. Stop and think about how the things you say sound to someone else. Would you want someone to speak to you that way? It helps to think of it that way. I certainly want to build others up, especially those I love. And I have noticed that even when I respond kindly to the sassy checkout lady, it usually defuses the sass. Try it. And do it now. Because in Matthew 12, 36-37 it says, “But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgement for every empty word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.” I don’t think God takes our words lightly! We shouldn’t either! Just a thought…
Dear Heavenly Father, Forgive us for not thinking before we speak. Whether what we say is foul, critical or just plain unkind, we are very sorry. We never want to be too comfortable that we don’t even notice our own sarcasm. Please forgive us Lord. We are Yours and we want to represent love and kindness, like You have shown us. Amen